Follow-up due to response
Wow. Ok so I had a response to my previous post that snapped my head back. And it's kind of funny because once upon a time, a long time ago, I posted something that unintentionally hurt/bothered someone. I didn't realize how sharp words could cut. This most recent response brought back that thought again.
So let me clarify. I in no way, shape or form measure the value of my relationship based on gifts or how much is spent on me. What I mean is that I feel like I get shoved to the back burner on so many things. I feel like while I do everything in my power to put him first, he doesn't do the same for me. And now I feel like I keep digging myself deeper and deeper into a hole because everything I'm saying makes me sound more and more like a bad, selfish person. OOF.
Final thought: What I write is just my way of venting and helping myself stay sane. Not all of it is to be taken literally. It's just the thoughts that are being screamed in my head.
So let me clarify. I in no way, shape or form measure the value of my relationship based on gifts or how much is spent on me. What I mean is that I feel like I get shoved to the back burner on so many things. I feel like while I do everything in my power to put him first, he doesn't do the same for me. And now I feel like I keep digging myself deeper and deeper into a hole because everything I'm saying makes me sound more and more like a bad, selfish person. OOF.
Final thought: What I write is just my way of venting and helping myself stay sane. Not all of it is to be taken literally. It's just the thoughts that are being screamed in my head.
posted by Ill-Fated Butterfly at 8:37 PM
1 Comments:
Fair enough. Then I suppose I would be careful about keeping score in a relationship. It might not feel like you're doing that, but perhaps he may feel that you are. That's also fairly toxic.
It's not that your feelings are invalid, but there's a vicious circle of guilt that you'll feel if you think this way, and he'll feel guilty for what you're feeling. I wouldn't read into any financial transaction as an indication of where you place on his priority list.
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