Time to Myself

Ok. So I did it. I'm getting good at the whole "open communication" thing.

I love being with the guy I'm currently dating, however, I don't want him thinking every spare minute/moment we will be together. I know that sounds shitty, but I don't mean it to be. I just want to make sure it's established EARLY ON that I need time to myself and/or with my friends. Because in my trials and tribulations, I've found that the sooner you get this trend established, the better off you are.

Take this for instance: A gourmet cooking group and I used to get together weekly for dinners (usually on Wednesdays or Thursdays). Well within the past couple months, our friends who have 3 kids joined us, which is AWESOME because it has become a weekly thing, but it hindered our gourmet-abilities because we had to find everyone-friendly foods. So long story still long, we've taken Sunday as our new cooking night.

That being said, it's pretty much and "our" thing. It's "our" special night to just hang out. So not to say the bf isn't invited...however...he's not invited. Not yet at least. Maybe in time, but this has always been an intimate group thing (that group being our usual suspects) so...

Wow, after re-reading this, I sound like a raging bitch and a horrible gf. I'm trying not to be though. I'm just trying to keep it real. Why pretend everything is honky-dory when it's not, right? Why pretend something doesn't bother me if it actually does. Or why live under some false presumptions or facades when in the long run it'll kill a relationship?? Exactly. I SHOULDN'T!