Attraction? What is this? Part 1
A friend and I had an interesting conversation earlier this week about the "rules of attraction". What is it that makes one attracted to another, especially when it comes to a first date and or meeting?
It was agreed upon that guys have a different thought process than girls when it comes to having feelings for someone. I believe, as does she, that the first things we may notice in a new person are their physical characteristics. The conclusion was made, though, that guys dwell most on that when they first meet someone, whereas girls like to get to know them better to be able to say "yes I am attracted to you". I mean, think about it!
On the average, a guy will not ask out a girl based on her IQ or ideas and thoughts on life, they base their initial feelings on what they look like. Yes, in a club or bar scene, it's kind of hard to get into an in depth conversation, so looks are what both parties must base their decision on of whether or not to ask the other out. But what is it that makes someone attracted to another person?
I think it's more of a feeling than anything else. I know I am attracted, and or falling hard for someone, when I get the butterflies at the thought of going out with them. When I feel nervous getting together, even after the awkwardness of the first date. When my heart flutters when the phone rings, and the caller ID says their name, that is how I know. But is it the same for everyone? Is it a feeling or is it more of a thought? I just don't know. We never came to a TOTAL conclusion, but it definitely gave me something to think about.
Or what is it that makes us remain attracted to someone, even after things went sour? Is it the awesome memories that make it almost impossible to forget the person? Is it the inability to hate who they are, because deep down we still "love" them? Or is it an uncontrollable force that takes over our minds and hearts and doesn't let us let go? A new side-branch of this food for thought blog is what I have run into contact with.
Who knows anymore? I think that the hardest part of getting over someone is when a person hits a wall, like I did, and realizes, "I can't remember how to forget that person".
It was agreed upon that guys have a different thought process than girls when it comes to having feelings for someone. I believe, as does she, that the first things we may notice in a new person are their physical characteristics. The conclusion was made, though, that guys dwell most on that when they first meet someone, whereas girls like to get to know them better to be able to say "yes I am attracted to you". I mean, think about it!
On the average, a guy will not ask out a girl based on her IQ or ideas and thoughts on life, they base their initial feelings on what they look like. Yes, in a club or bar scene, it's kind of hard to get into an in depth conversation, so looks are what both parties must base their decision on of whether or not to ask the other out. But what is it that makes someone attracted to another person?
I think it's more of a feeling than anything else. I know I am attracted, and or falling hard for someone, when I get the butterflies at the thought of going out with them. When I feel nervous getting together, even after the awkwardness of the first date. When my heart flutters when the phone rings, and the caller ID says their name, that is how I know. But is it the same for everyone? Is it a feeling or is it more of a thought? I just don't know. We never came to a TOTAL conclusion, but it definitely gave me something to think about.
Or what is it that makes us remain attracted to someone, even after things went sour? Is it the awesome memories that make it almost impossible to forget the person? Is it the inability to hate who they are, because deep down we still "love" them? Or is it an uncontrollable force that takes over our minds and hearts and doesn't let us let go? A new side-branch of this food for thought blog is what I have run into contact with.
Who knows anymore? I think that the hardest part of getting over someone is when a person hits a wall, like I did, and realizes, "I can't remember how to forget that person".
posted by Ill-Fated Butterfly at 4:10 AM
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